Long after dating marry

15 Oct

But, anthropologist and human behavior expert at Indiana University who's spent decades studying different aspect of love, Helen Fisher says that if you wait about two years before getting married, it could boost your chances of leading a happy, life-long marriage.

"There was a recent study in which they asked a lot of [dating] people who were living together ...

In some ways marriage has taken on a terrifying role in today's society because of what can come after: divorce.

I don't know whether you've noticed this, but people involved in a dating relationship tend to get to know each other better over the course of that relationship.

I discuss this principle more fully in "Principles for Drawing Boundaries" and "What Does a Biblical Relationship Look Like?

" As a quick refresher, we can "defraud" our brother or sister in a dating context by showing or encouraging a level of intimacy — either emotionally or physically — that the Bible seems to reserve for marriage and marriage only.

And time is the only one way to reactivate a part of the brain — responsible for logical decision making and planning — that shuts down when you first fall in love with someone new, which can explain the irrational behavior of two people who are madly in love: "One of the problems with early stage intense feelings of romantic love is that it's part of the oldest part of the brain that become activated — brain regions linked with drive, with craving, with obsession, with motivation," Fisher, who has studied the brain on love, said.

"In fact some cognitive regions up in the prefrontal cortex [shown below in red] that have evolved more recently begin to shut down — brain regions linked with decision making [and] planning ahead." This intense feeling of love can cloud your ability to think logically or rationally about the person you're with.